“The trauma myth”

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In an interview on Salon.com, the author of the highly criticized “The Trauma Myth,” Susan Clancy was asked, “What do you mean by the “trauma myth”?”

The interview can be seen here

Clancy’s reply: “The title refers to the fact that although sexual abuse is usually portrayed by professionals and the media as a traumatic experience for the victims when it happens – meaning frightening, overwhelming, painful – it rarely is. Most victims do not understand they are being victimized, because they are too young to understand sex, the perpetrators are almost always people they know and trust, and violence or penetration rarely occurs.”

If this so-called mental health ‘professional’ feels that violence and penetration rarely occurs, she ought to update herself to the 20th and 21st centuries. She sounds like the people from the first half of the 20th century, who claimed that incest is rare.

Clancy says, “Most victims do not understand they are being victimized, because they are too young to understand sex, the perpetrators are almost always people they know and trust, and violence or penetration rarely occurs. “Confusion” is the most frequently reported word when victims are asked to describe what the experience was like. Confusion is a far cry from trauma.”

To say that violence or penetration rarely occurs is professionally negligent and outrageous, and I have news for Clancy; an adult with bad intentions placing their body or their hands up against, onto, into, or on top of a child is traumatizing emotionally, mentally, and physically. When it is a parent or trusted loved one –it is also a betrayal, and can betrayal not often be traumatic?

I know someone who as an infant had a kitchen knife thrust up her vigina when her mother tried to kill her by cutting her in half. Is this woman seriously say that would NOT be traumatic?

A child does not have to understand sex to KNIW when something is wrong. I didn’t not understand what was going on, but I KNEW something was not right. Being held down against your will and having items and boody parts thrust against and inside you IS TRAUMATIC!

“Despite all of this media and research attention on sexual abuse for the last 30 years, I still don’t hear the answer to one question: What the…. is wrong with all of these men? Sexual abuse is not women; it’s men. Every once in a while a woman will sexually abuse,…”

This woman keeps getting more ignorant with every comment she makes. “Every once in a while?” Did it ever occur to this so-called mental health “professional” that because there is so much denial within society, and by the victims themselves, and so much deep-seated shame –that most victims of female sexual offenders will never speak about it? Does Clancy not realize that mother/daughter, sister/sister, grandmother/granddaughter incest is not rare but is rarely spoken of by society and by the victims?
Juat because something is not spoken about does NOT meant that it does not happen.

There are over 60 million survivors of child sexual abuse in America alone. Millions of them have been raped and sodomized, terrorized with objects inserted in their bodies, and forced into oral sex. In addition, 95% of victims never tell anyone, so how the hell can she claim that rape, oral rape, sodomy, violent penetration by men, and sexual abuse by a woman is rare?

“….people exposed to horrifying events report that they often remember them all too well. Ask any child exposed to the recent earthquake in Haiti if they “repressed it.” None will. True trauma will always be remembered. “

There are HUGE differences between what happened in Haiti, and victims of incest who repress their experience: If any child exposed to the earthquake were to be told by their family members that nothing happened to them, and if everyone in their family denied that any earthquake ever took place and acted as if nothing had ever happened while the earthquake was occurring,……and if all records and documentation of the earthquake were sealed, and if no one ever spoke of the earthquake again, I can guarantee you that the child would repress all of the trauma that they experienced, and even that the quake ever happened.
Haiti was an awful thing, and still is a tragic traumatic event. But unlike abuse people are not going to just pretend it did not happen, making people (esspecially children) question their own memories.

“The idea of repression ultimately hurts victims. It reinforces the notion that sexual abuse is and should be a traumatic experience when it happens – something done against the will of the victims.”

I don’t even know what to say to this… so Ms Clancy; pedophiles and sex offenders have done NOTHING WRONG??? So children don’t resist or fight back? So child abuse survivors do not suffer from PTSD? So child abuse does not cause dissociative identity disorder? So the psyche fragmenting is perfectly natural and healthy?
Ms Clancy what you are doing is helping to perpetuate an atmosphere where those who want to abuse children, will molest them and say, ‘this won’t hurt you’ or `she won’t resist, because she likes it.’ Those who will rape children can say, `no one will believe you”. YOU are HELPING the abusers

No child wants to be raped or penetrated with objects. Their body might respond favorably to on-going molestation, but this is a mere biologicval responce and NOT a sign that the actions were wanted. Most children are subtly groomed, so their so-called “free will” to be abused is not their will at all, but a mental conditioning to be abused.

Part 2 can be seen here


4 Responses to ““The trauma myth””

  1. Karita Says:

    Well said, very well said.

  2. “the trauma myth” – part 2 « Shadowlight's Blog Says:

    […] “the trauma myth” – part 2 January 27, 2010 — shadowlight (part one be seen here) […]

  3. BellasMom06 Says:

    First, I really hope you don’t have kids.
    Second, If kids arent so affected by it, how come so many grow up and enter therapy because of it?

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